I just had to have a little break there and do some catch up work. There is no new little sully on the way here. Or at least 3 home tests say that there isn’t. I have been having my glass of wine every evening with religious regularity.
I think that this recent housework meltdown is great evidence of the need for a rule of life around here. A few years ago I read “A Mothers Rule of Life” by Holly Pierlot. I have to say I was rather underwhelmed with the work. I remember thinking repeatedly during the reading that it was obvious that she did not have a large pile of children and that she had unrealistic expectations. I don’t really need a day off to “do my own thing” every week. I do need the freedom to go do things that need to get done as they come up. And that has not really been a problem around here.
My problem with a rule of life is my innate hatred of rules. I am sort of a rule breaker. (Fortunately for me, I discovered as an adult that I am far more counter-cultural when I follow the Catholic Church than when I don’t.) I really like the freedom to chuck it all and play all day, but then who doesn’t? The day AFTER the chucking day always really stinks, too.
In a home rule of life there is also little to no accountability. When one lives in community you are accoutable to all the other members, as they are accountable to you. Children, not so much. The person ultimately responsible for the way our day goes is me. So I thought I might use you as my accountability!
So for the month of June I am going to live according to a rule, and I will let you know how it goes. Since we are in “light summer schooling” my daily schedule reflects that, along with time to go to the pool. I am also giving myself the freedom to have one “chuck it all” day every week. So here is my proposed schedule for the day:
Rise at 7 A.M., Make bed, make coffee, do laundry #1, shower and start breakfast.
Say morning prayers and eat breakfast, do chores (we already have a well established chore rotation following all meals).
Older children start school independently, mom do laundry #2 and get on computer (1 hour limit).
Mom work with younger children on school work until lunch. Older child on lunch duty for the day should start lunch prep at 11:30 A.M.
Eat lunch and do chores.
Get ready and head for the pool until 4:00 or 4:30 (depends a lot on the heat – the hotter the day, the longer we want to stay).
Home from the pool: cleanup and prepare tomorrow’s snack and pool bag, laundry #3, begin dinner prep while children tidy bedrooms and any remaining messes in school room/rec room.
Eat dinner and do chores.
Reading time – read aloud or silently until 7:00 P.M.
Get ready for bed, say family rosary and night prayers.
Children to bed at 8:00 and 8:30.
Mom and Dad recreation until 9:30.
Any suggestions or obvious omissions? Here’s to the experiment!
May 27, 2008 at 6:01 pm
Well you are not going to like my suggestions, so either I give them because I am outspoken and have an opinion on everything or I shut-up. Which would you prefer?
May 27, 2008 at 6:33 pm
Ow. Somebody took their snarky pills this morning.
May 29, 2008 at 10:03 pm
Sorry, can’t help myself sometimes. I think instead of mommy doing the laundry first thing in the morning you assign each of the 5 (yes 5) older children a day and a specific load and have the load worthy of the age. To make life even easier have the children at night sort the clothes according to bags that you mark then the older children can easily find the clothes and put them in the washer. Then at lunch they can put it into the drier. Then when you come home from the pool they can fold while you start your afternoon load. That way you are teaching them to do the laundry and you don’t have to do everything. Just a suggestion to make your life easier while giving them more responsibility.
And I know your argument about wanting it done a certain way, but if you give them things that can be done without spot spray except Rachel & Genna, you will not have to do 50 loads at one time.
Oh and implement the buddy system on this so that Bree can get her load done with some assistance.
Anyway that was my snarky suggestion to help you out.
June 1, 2008 at 12:04 pm
Amen Micki. I have done that very thing. My older 5, that would be approx. your oldest 5. All have a day or half a day for laundry. They sort darks/lights. They toss it in the washer add soap, set the timer for when the cycle is done, into the dryer and when it is done the fold and put away. It’s the put away part that gets interesting. You absolutely MUST supervise that part for a few weeks, esp. the hanging up part. Now that it is nice outside they hang their laundry out. Keeps them busy and keeps the laundry done. I do laundry twice a week now, for me and the hubby and once for sheets/towels. It has been wonderful! My older girls wouldn’t dream of letting anyone touch their laundry. Now the boys are still a work in progress, but I really believe anyone over the age of 8 can safely operate a washing machine and fold some clothes!